Category: INFJ Things

What’s Your MBTI? (INFJ Represent!)

Find out yours here: 16 Personalities MBTI Test

I took AP Psychology in high school and very quickly we learned about MBTI. I took the test, got INFJ, was fascinated for a little bit, and then completely forgot about everything I learned. I wasn’t really a good student.

Years later, I happened upon the test again. Took it. Still an INFJ. With a clearer head I read more about my personality type and was floored. Everything in my life made sense at the moment I read the descriptions. It explained my anxiety, explained why I lied to my friends and told them I couldn’t go out when the truth was I just wanted to stay in, and explained why I can hate people and love them at the same time. I just finally understood so many things about myself, all thanks this little test. I actually became obsessed with finding out everyone’s type — my family, friends, husband, coworkers, I even wondered what characters on TV/movies would be if they took the test. If I could understand myself now, I wanted to understand everyone around me!

The first person I wanted to take the test was, obviously, my husband. He is an ESTJ — practical, logical, straightforward, extroverted, and the complete opposite of me. I knew these from the beginning of our relationship, but after reading things about his personality type, I began to understand him more. It used to be a lot of fights with me thinking I could change some things about him, but I learned it couldn’t be done and we just have to work around each other. If you look it up, INFJs and ESTJs shouldn’t be together (in the same way they say Pisces and Cancer belong together). I take it all with a grain of salt, but I believe MBTIs are the way to go!

I had people argue with me that MBTIs are like horoscopes, and how you can’t fit any given person in 1 of 16 possibilities. I definitely see where they come from, but MBTIs are so much better and more than horoscopes. I’m not a big fan of the idea that you can attribute all that you are based on the day you were born (although admittedly, I fit the Pisces description to the T). The MBTI results come from a test, questions that you answer about yourself, and the types are general and yet specific to all kinds of people you meet in your life.

I do know that personalities change. Different events in someone’s life can cause them to change. Some people can be extroverted children and grow into introverted adults. It happens. Getting a different personality type at different points of your life doesn’t discredit MBTI, but it’s still a great start in getting to know who someone is.


The “Special Snowflake” Syndrome

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Do a quick Google search on the term and this is what you’ll find:
spe·cial snow·flake
A person with supposedly unique characteristics or attributes that entitle them to privileged treatment or particular consideration.
“they’re getting paid either way, just for being the special snowflakes that they are”


Early 21st century: from the idea that every snowflake is distinct from another, in terms of the arrangement of the ice crystals of which it is composed.

I’ve been accused of being this way, and truthfully, I don’t really care. The term has a negative connotation to it but hey… why can’t I be a special snowflake?

I’m an INFJ — my MBTI personality type. We make up the smallest percentage of the population, and that already sets me apart from a lot of people. I’ve always felt different, a little more different than the next person, and it caused a lot of internal conflict. Realizing my personality type has made me come to terms with who I am and began a journey of self-discovery. What parts of me cause me to see things a certain way? What parts of me makes my view on this subject unique? What parts of me makes me different person from the next?

Everyone is different, I know that. I’ve been focusing on these things that make me unique to better understand myself and how I became this way, or why I feel the way I do about certain things. I just need a place to write about it, which is why a special snowflake like myself believes that a public diary for all the world to see was the best option.

Some readers may stop by and think, “Who does she think she is? Why does she think anyone cares about her views, who she is, what she has to say?” and I understand that. Who knows, though — Some readers may find something to relate to, and as an INFJ, I believe a connection can go a long way.

I’m here to write about my life, my thoughts, my feelings. I’m here to share the things that make me happy, that give my life meaning, and to share the things that bring me down. I’m here to struggle, I’m here to pull through, I’m here to embrace the special snowflake that I think I am and I’m here to figure out where I’m going to land.

Here’s to the start of a new commitment, wish me luck.